Losing a loved one can be a very confusing and difficult time. Grief is a natural process, there is no right or wrong way to grieve due to the fact that it is entirely an individual experience. Everyone copes with loss in varying ways, depending on personality traits, life experiences, and how significant the loss was to you. The healing process can be very long and insufferable, but just know that in time you will overcome it.
Everyone deals with the process in different ways and there may not be a perfect way to grieve. Below are only our recommendations in terms of the healthiest ways to go about the process.
STAGE 1
When you find yourself in the phase of denial, it is easy to be consumed by false ideations about the reality of a situation. Pushing your worries aside and ignoring the tragedy is a part of the process and can actually be an effective way to grieve. Denial lets you take in the amounts you are capable of handling at the time. Eventually, accepting the reality of the situation begins to come clear, and you slowly begin the healing process. The denial begins to fade and your feelings begin to reach the surface.
STAGE 2
There comes a time when you may feel resentment and anger. You have now entered the second stage of grief. You search for someone or something to blame, whether it be yourself, God, the physician, or even the person who passed away for abandoning you. Do not feel isolated when having these thoughts, these feelings are completely normal and happen very often when dealing with grief.
STAGE 3
There comes a time when you may feel guilty for the persons passing. You tell yourself that there could have been something done to prevent it from happening, something that you could have done. You may try to pray for a trade off of some kind, negotiating with God. Don't be consumed by the "if onlys" or any theoretical situations, this will only make you feel more guilt. Try to have an open mind, begin to understand the situation in a logical and accepting way.
STAGE 4
There will most likely be a period where you feel empty inside. This is the state of depression. This stage may feel like it will never end, and the pain will last forever. Struggling to wonder if it is worth going on in life, questioning life itself. You must understand that depression is the most common coping mechanism for loss. To not feel depressed after losing someone you care about would be unusual. Accepting that your loved one will not be coming back is a very difficult concept to understand, you must be strong and push forward.
Your friends and family will always be there for you, now is the time to draw yourself closer to them. Often people want to help, don't be afraid to tell them what you need.
If you are part of a religious tradition, embrace it and create a more powerful connection to it. Praying, meditating, and other spiritual activities can offer peace.
There are several forms of therapy you can use to relieve yourself. Telling your story in front of people who relate can help. Exercise, healthy habits, and hobbies are also good.
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